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Laura McGuire

Quintessentially Queer: Helping My Ex Find Love

Posted on September 17, 2020

Queer women are famous for staying friends for life. Our exes are often our besties, business partners, and extended family. While straight people debate if exes can ever stay friends, queer women have made it a cultural norm. I loved you once as my lover and forever as my friend—even if we aren’t a match for lifelong romantic entanglement, I still want to be around you because I enjoy and value our connection. It seems pretty simple in the dyke…

Dear Queer Students, I Didn’t Get to Say Goodbye

Posted on August 27, 2020

As teachers, we come into this vocation knowing we will love and part ways with many students throughout our career. At the start of the school year, we meet dozens of new shining faces, and like a parent, we love them all equally. But every year we also find a certain special bond with some students over others. This has nothing to do with favoritism, it is simply the human nature of finding common connection. When I meet certain students…

Unlearning: The Evolving Education of Queer Adulthood

Posted on August 14, 2020

What does it mean “to know?” How do we confirm a belief, or distinguish between bias and truth? As children, we believe what we are told. Our parents, caregivers, communities, and teachers tell us how the world works. We are given plenty of answers but rarely feel empowered to question them. As queer people, many of us were told that we didn’t have the option to be who we are—either explicitly or through the omission of our identities in conversation.…

Beyond the Visual: The Radical Feminism of Audio Erotica

Posted on July 21, 2020

Porn can be divisive—and, often, whether you view the erotic subject as good, bad, or neutral depends largely on the lens and framework of your gaze. On one side is the camp that sees almost all porn, as long as it's between consenting adults, as fun and fine. On the other side are the folks who equalize all types of porn and generalize them all as bad. This latter group is an interesting mix of liberal feminists, violence prevention advocates,…

Welcoming Anger: How to Embrace Uncomfortable Feelings to Promote Healing and Change

Posted on July 9, 2020

When dating someone new, I always tell them that I don’t “do” anger. I’ve had unwarranted anger wielded against me before and I know how lasting those marks can be. Anger is unpredictable, unfair, and terrifying. I can’t handle another person’s abuse, another relationship spent walking on eggshells and fearing rage.…

Queers Who Cover: Reclaiming Modesty Through a Feminist Lens

Posted on July 1, 2020

Last month, I began a journey to tell the stories of fellow LGBTQ people who follow the religious practice of hair covering—an exploration that was born from the need to find and connect with others who are both queer and called to outwardly express their deep-faith practice. I was overwhelmed with the response to my first article on Bailey Gammon, a young, disabled, queer Quaker who covers—numerous other queer folks across the faith spectrum reached out, wishing to share their…

More Than A Mother: A Letter to My Revolutionary Mom This Mother’s Day

Posted on May 7, 2020

Dear Mom, I know you don’t always think I see you for all that you genuinely are. More than as my mother, my children’s Nonna, or my rock—but as a human being. At times, you may think I only see you through a critical lens—that I bring up what you are not, the ways in which I wish you were different, or that I make comparisons between you and other moms. Perhaps I do. But I want you to know that,…

Queers Who Cover: Finding Pride and Healing as a Queer, Disabled Quaker

Posted on May 7, 2020

A photo of Bailey Gammon, a disabled, lesbian, Quaker who chooses to wear a head covering.

I have always loved God. Yes, at times, I couldn’t stand to be around organized religion. And yes, at times, I even wanted to embrace Agnosticism or Atheism, simply because of the pain I felt from having religion weaponized against me. But even still, I could not escape the joy and validity of my relationship with the divine. As I have made peace with my queerness, I have also begun to re-embrace those aspects of religion and the church that…

To Be Real: The Revolution of ‘Work in Progress’

Posted on April 23, 2020

Every once in a great while, a television show will come out that truly reflects our lived realities, our silent thoughts, and our hidden truths and, suddenly—just like that—we know that we are not alone. For me, Showtime’s Work in Progress is that show.…

Is Dating Actually Worth It?

Posted on April 9, 2020

Growing up, we’re all fed the same fairytale ending: We’ll find our person, they’ll offer us love and devotion, they’ll complete us, and together, we’ll settle into a life of fulfillment. From story books, to romantic comedies, to the arc of almost every book, romantic partnering is presented as the ideal. Surprise, things aren’t that easy.…

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